This content originally appeared on DEV Community and was authored by Lou Willoughby
I’m currently struggling with how to deal with a colleague of mine and I would really appreciate some advice please.
I struggle with the feeling of stigma on my team, being the only female I can get the feeling I’m not taken as seriously as my fellow developer colleagues. The way I’m spoken to sometimes can come across as condescending. I have absolutely no issue with anyone else in the company, my other colleagues, especially ones I’ve worked with since joining the company 4 years ago have been very supportive of me and my career change (I started on the sales team many moons ago).
A bit about me,
I’m not always as serious as my colleagues, I’m outgoing and quite social, I can talk about absolutely anything I have no judgement on things.
I’m strong with what I believe in. I also love celebrating wins big or small for myself or my team and I’m expressive with that, regardless if I get eye rolls from my male colleagues.
I will also share my opinions on things and speak up when needed where as others hold back. They’re quick to moan but never speak up to get things resolved where as I will.
Unlike my colleagues my career is very front end development focused and so I only work on those projects where others may not. This is something my boss and I come to an agreement on together and he’s very supportive of this. I remember the colleague I’m conflicting with being very taken aback and slightly annoyed by this.
I also manage some processes and procedures on the team which I don’t feel my colleague has any respect towards.
In and outside of work I focus mainly on learning things for my career as that’s what’s important, I have a roadmap in place I’m working towards. He in his spare time learns outside the realms of this, I’m looked down upon by him because I don’t.
I watch Netflix shows and game in my spare time whereas he watches coding videos as that’s what he enjoys but he’s commented on how I don’t do as much “learning time” as him.
Me and my colleague,
We’re both Junior Developers and we’re the same age. He’s male, I’m female. I have over a year and a half experience on this team and in development and he 9 months for both. We’re both new to the field.
We’ve both been given the responsibility to review code PRs within the team and I recently felt he was being very unfair towards my work.
Some background,
We work in an agile way, we have set cards in Jira and only do what’s been tasked to do, if anything extra needs doing then it’s raised separately.
We recently added ESLint to our codebase and so any work we do on legacy files we have to format and that goes up with the PR.
I’ve been working on a project that was split into an epic as the work was too much for one card of work, this was split into 3 separate cards. I did one and made my PR which my colleague reviewed. He left comments on the card about files I hadn’t even worked on and was legacy code saying it needs writing better, I advised that file was on my PR due to formatting changes, I accept its code that needs working on but it’s nothing to do with my card of work or PR and so I’ll raise it separately. He is now refusing my PR due to these issues he deems needs fixing now. I’ve said no and explained my reasoning. I messaged him over slack as we was both working from home and he told me not to have a go at him, I explained I wasn’t I was just trying to discuss his comments as I felt they was unfair, no matter what I said he continued commenting on my PR and it really stressed me out.
I accept there’s things he knows that I don’t and I do go to him for his input or advice as I respect him and his knowledge on things and know he can help me. He never comes to me for anything, even about any of the processes I manage he’ll go around me for it then to come back to me as I manage it anyway?
I honestly don’t know what to do, I’m feeling genuinely disrespected by my colleague and that there’s this hidden competition or thing to prove because we’re both juniors? I don’t know. I’ve tried telling my boss before but I don’t believe anything was said or done about it.
Have you been in a similar situation and/or have any advice please?
This content originally appeared on DEV Community and was authored by Lou Willoughby
Lou Willoughby | Sciencx (2022-06-01T21:29:15+00:00) Friendly competition or more?. Retrieved from https://www.scien.cx/2022/06/01/friendly-competition-or-more/
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